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One of the best advantages that online dating can offer is that it can reduce or even remove the awkwardness of the first meeting. One of the main issues in dating is to break the ice between the two strangers. The freedom from actual first – time interaction makes online dating desirable for some.
There are so many dating sites online that can cater to your needs. Take for example using a dating online site if you are searching for contact with someone from another race or country
How do you break the ice when online dating?
1. Don't take the experience too seriously
Remind yourself this is a connection – not a date or interview. Take it easy and make your interaction as light as possible so that it is easy for you to develop a relevant connection.
2. Get to know your date beforehand
Carefully screen the profile of your date. Look at their interests to see where you might find compatibility.
3. Do not share more than what is needed
Only divulge necessary information. It is important to protect yourself.
4. Prepare yourself emotionally and physically
It helps when you look tidy on screen. Be yourself as you talk and get to know each other a little. Bear in mind to be cautious and if something does not seem quite right, go with your gut feeling. Conversely do not be bowled over by your date. As in real life first meetings are when people are usually on their best behaviour, trying to impress each other and putting their best foot forward.
Online dating opens up a lot of choice for potential mates. You will probably end up with a list of them and prioritising who you want to connect with. Only connect with people you feel you have a real affinity with.
It is not fair to string people along. You can gain a negative online reputation just as you can in 'real life'.
6. Recognize rejections as part of the normal process
Do not dwell on rejection as it is part of the normal process in dating. Do not take it upon yourself that it is your fault. If someone does not want to talk to you, be big about it. Let it go.
Do not run the risk of getting reported because you have over stepped the line.
7. Arrange for a real-life date
Protect yourself. Tell a trusted friend/s your date details – your date's name and any other contact details, where and when you intend to meet, how long you expect the date to last. Take your phone with you. Have a friend available while your date is happening – organise for them to contact you periodically and have a code text to alert your friend if you get into trouble – for example sent a blank text to that friend. Use common sense.
8. Don’t expect too much
It may be that online dating might not work for you, or is not meant for you. Do not expect online dating to be the solution to all your dating woes. In the same manner, do not expect your date to be what you have imagined them to be.
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