Let’s take a moment out of our busy lives, and take our journey into our hearts. What do we find? Probably an entire bookshelf within us filled with chapters, paragraphs and even entire novels based on our experiences in love.
Some may marvel at the idea of having so many experiences seeped within us, and some may frown at the idea of still not having found their ‘love’ in spite of all the experiences they may have faced. I too, feel startled when I take a journey into my heart and realize what I find there…
I find stories - I find fairy tales within me; some half complete, some broken like glass on the floor, and some complete with graceful dents and scars.
So many people come into our lives and fill our hearts with layers and layers of diverse emotions, yet why do we find it difficult to listen to our hearts and just go with our instinct?
After a long time of reflecting and attempts in fixing this issue, I have finally found my own answer. You know what the answer for me is? It’s a simple word yet it represents a very important aspect of ourselves, and this word is ‘compare’.
We as human beings have a tendency to compare everything to everything in our lives; whether it be holiday experiences, houses, cars, electronic gadgets and most importantly people. We compare people to others without realizing that we have been compared to others as well…sounds bad doesn’t it?
Yet I write this with being fully aware that I too, tend to compare everyone to everyone. All my past hurts and scars are compared with new and fresh experiences…and as I write this, it makes more sense to me that I have been doing wrong by others and also by me.
Why compare people in our past to the people we may meet or already may be dating? Why not let every experience stand alone, unique and significant in our hearts, and let’s welcome every experience of love with open arms as if it was our first time in taking in the fragrance of another.
So, let’s try to let go of our fears, and feel the euphoria of meeting someone new, without comparing this to what once was…