A New Relationship Has Some Similarities To A New Jacket

by Marie Vonow (follow)

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It may sound odd to compare a new relationship with buying a new jacket (or other clothing) but, bear with me, there are certain similarities.


Is it/he your style?
You have a certain style in clothing. When you go shopping for clothes you will be attracted to a certain item just as you find yourself attracted to a certain 'style' of man. You stop riffling through the rack of clothes and pull said item out to look at it more closely. Yes, you love the colour and the pattern. The fabric feels lovely..

But perhaps it's not quite your style. There are elements about it you like, but you hesitate and decide not to try it on. No, it's just not really your style after all.

The same can go with a guy you have just met on a night out with friends. Something makes you stop to chat and have a closer look. You are attracted to certain qualities about him. However, you soon realise he is not your style. You move on.

Does it/he fit with your lifestyle?
You try a jacket on and stand in the dressing room looking at yourself in the mirror. You try to picture yourself wearing the item to work, no it's not right for work.

Would you wear it when you go out with friends to coffee? You decide you wouldn't. By now you have decided it doesn't fit with your lifestyle.


Perhaps you have gone out with your 'new fella' a couple of times. You realise he isn't going to fit with your family and they are important to you.

You can't picture him laughing with your friends and you have no intention of giving up your pals who have supported you through thick and through thin.

He isn't going to want to do the same sort of activities you enjoy on holidays. There are far too many differences than could be fixed with a bit of compromising and you already realise he wouldn't be the one making the adjustments.

No, he doesn't fit your lifestyle.

Will it stand the test of time?
It's a lovely blazer but will it wear well? Will the colour last or will it fade? How about the shape, will it stretch or shrink? Is it high maintenance?

You have gone on several dates with this guy. You are asking yourself if the relationship will last. Will he stand by you when the going gets tough?

Is he difficult to please? Does he get sulky when things don't go his way or you have a different opinion?

Sometimes only time will tell
You have bought a new jacket after careful consideration. It fits well and matches up with items from your existing wardrobe. It seems like a winner.

Some time down the track that jacket just isn't working out. It ticked all the boxes when you bought it. At first it seemed great but now it doesn't.


You have been going out with a guy for a while now. At first it goes well. Yes, there are a few problems but you think you will work them out. However, as time passes you realise you are going to have to part company.

Of course there are many differences between an item of clothing and a relationship. For starters a relationship is much more important than clothing.

A relationship is a two way thing. You both have a lifestyle, family and friends to work in with. It's not all about one person. There needs to be a lot of give and take and some compromising. There should be taking turns and working together to come up with solutions.

In spite of the many differences, I still think there are some similarities between a new jacket (or other piece of clothing) and a new relationship.


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