Image Courtesy of tungphoto / FreeDigitalPhotos.net Is this couple slipping away, after being away from each other? Does absence really make the heart grow fonder?
Maybe it does, and maybe it doesn't. Or does it? From the experiences of myself and my life coaching clients in the past in this area of love based relationships; it is fair to say that it all depends. It all depends on you and your partner. It depends on the chemistry between you and your partner, and how far the both of you are in your current relationship. This can oscillate, depending on how grounded the relationship is.
One of my friends Ella (name has been changed for the individuals privacy) was missing her partner, and now that he is scheduled to be back in the country - she does not miss him at all. Odd. It may depend on the mood Ella is in. Right now the universe is not initiating contact, yet Ella's boyfriend used to be so good at that - aka e-mail communication.
Ella's boyfriend went away just before Christmas to spend time with his family overseas. Apparently Ella's boyfriend is going through a separation with his wife. Therefore (and technically) he is still married. This guy ticks all the right boxes otherwise. She even went through my soulmate wish list, and was dead set certain that her man has nearly all of those qualities she wants in a love based relationship, except he also has kids.
The latter is a bit too personal for Ella to allow me to divulge into deeper. They were missing each other, and just after New Years Day he e-mailed her saying how much he misses her, and that they'll catch up as soon as he comes back home.
Okay, it has been a week since he has returned home. Neither Ella or her boy have made contact with each other. No e-mail. No text message. Nothing. Not even a phone call.
That's right Ella no longer misses him, and feels okay either way with him in or out of her life. She's had a bit of sex with him. On that, I could be wrong. Do men just see us women for our physical bodies? Or are there many that want more than just that one thing to comprise of a loving, fulfilling relationship?
Ella feels guilty as she has allowed this man to have an affair with her. The man says he has only been separated with his wife for about eight months, yet Ella's gut feel is telling her that he has been separated with his wife for longer than that. Has this man made up his mind who he wants to be with?
This couple have not seen each other for a month, and it seems that Ella wants nothing to do with this once sweet and wonderful man anymore. You'd be keen to give your partner a bit of space to settle back home, yet on the other hand if you love each other you'll want to make contact with each other straight away. Ella doesn't want to for some reason, like she's just flicked the off love switch.
My final take on this: absence does not always make the heart grow fonder. It depends on your relationship, and as an editor (once relationships coach) of a relationships and dating hub, I don't know. I still don't have all the answers. On Truly Heart, although we offer advice - it is all steered towards helping you (the wonderful subscribers and reader) head in the right direction that resonates with you, when it comes to you in the area of love and relationships.
Thank you for sharing that quote. This is how Ella is (unfortunately) is still feeling right now. She still has not heard from her man. Life is a mirror, and with my man we are missing each other - however I've heard from mine.
Ella called me not long ago to tell me. It doesn't make any sense.