If thereís one thing that I have learnt from relationships itís that you need to know when youíre taking your own insecurities or stress out on your partner. I have been down the path myself where I have been overstressed from work, university and internships to the point where I took out my pent-up stress on my partner. We need to take a step back and ask ourselves is that fair? Luckily I am with someone who understands that I get a bit crazy around peak-assignment time and lets me get away with a lot of crazy. But how many times can you push someone until they too realise that itís not fair and they donít have to put up with it?
To be happy in our relationships we of course need to be happy in ourselves. This becomes harder and harder as the job market gets tougher and tougher and societyís expectations set the bar higher and higher. But corny as it sounds, if you have supported each other through the tough times and still have each-other, what else do you need? Your partner has seen the best and worst of you and if theyíre still there, youíre doing pretty well. That doesnít mean that you still canít push them away by not making them feel special, by not doing nice things for each other. It is important to shake off the mundane of every day life and do something that you both enjoy doing, go on a picnic, go out to dinner or even just a trip to the shops where you hold hands. Something to make you remember why youíre with that person.
Love is so important to our wellbeing, to love and be loved is to be human and once youíve found that person donít push them away because you canít deal with your stress well enough. They have always been there for you and you need to be grateful for that and show it.