Home    Subscribe    Write for Us    FAQ    Contact    HubGarden    Login

Break Up

by Mina Keenan (follow)
Mina's Printables:) Time (23)      Healing (10)      Breaking Up (4)      Process (1)     


broken heart, heartache,healing



It is amazing to me how we are conditioned in our beliefs and thoughts.

I have met so many people that think they have failed because of relationships or marriages that didn't work out. This is a sad thing.


Being Left

For the person who was left, there are issues of rejection and often a huge feeling of unjust. The ego is damaged, especially if that person did not see anything was majorly wrong with the relationship.


Having Left

For the person who left, there are often feelings of guilt. They may not have been able to cope with the relationship - it just might have been too much - or too little.

Many people turn inward and blame themselves completely. I would like to think people should only take half the blame at most.

On both sides there seems to be huge embarrassment.


Process

I have come to think that this is just a process that happens when hurt is new and raw.


Quite often I see men and women have the same questions:

How could he/she do that to me?
What will I do now?
Will I be ostracised by mutual friends?
How will the families treat me?
How do I manage?


...and the same statements:

I did everything I could.
We could have worked it out.
No one will have me.



When you have invested considerable time and effort into a relationship I reckon its only natural to go through all the thoughts and scenarios. It is a way of weeding out all the possibilities and a way to eventual acceptance.

If there were not this process and if the situation didn't hurt so much - we might not be able appreciate a good relationship when we come across it.

It takes a while to be able to step back and look at things from another angle.




# Breaking Up
# Healing
# Time
# Process
More Articles by Mina Keenan
Love stories are fascinating
69 views
Here are some links to friends of Truly Heart
427 views
Was at the doctors, on a respirator, and I couldn't talk
608 views
People over time have come up with the most thought provoking of sentiments
108 views
Minor verbal squirmishes can be pretty upsetting enough, and they can grow into fully fledged fa...
187 views
Will the new boarder be the love of her life? This story is from a comic book out of copyright
782 views
Articles by Mina Keenan on Other Hubs
Beautiful blooms to add colour to
111 views
Something has caught the eye of this couple - what's new on the horizon? Use this note card to write...
73 views
Grab this writing page to print, colour and add text to before pasting into your book for a fantasti...
64 views
Zombie ghosty men in the doorway
55 views
ID: 7897
Trending Articles
Recently I have heard some disastrous dating stories from my single friends
24651 views
Relationships guru Dr Gary Chapman purports that there are five different ways that lovers can c...
14250 views
A friend may say the jacket you are wearing is too bright or has too much embellishment because sh...
305 views
It's so very important that we learn from the experiences of our yesterdays - but it is equally ...
1826 views
We can be blessed and have many friends, through work, school, social activities or social media...
by SJP
3538 views
Narcissism is a word that has been bandied about quite a bit in one of the circles I hang out in...
237 views
This article was contributed for
419 views
What qualities are you looking for in your ideal partner? Think it through
1119 views
Whether you have just come out of a serious relationship or you have been on the single scene for ...
by SJP
513 views
When you are newly engaged, one of the most frequently asked questions after you show off your r...
by SJP
76 views
Categories
 
Copyright 2012-2018 OatLabs ABN 18113479226. mobile version