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Growth comes from having children, irrespective as to whether or not (from a female perspective) you become a mum naturally, and/or you inherit a child or two in a new, serious relationship - where you and your partner have committed to one another. Ceteris paribus on both genders. Children are fantastic. Their sense of imagination and wonder is captivating. Even though I lost my two daughters from my last relationship, however it was nice to be a mother for a fleeting moment in retrospect to the rest of my life.
Children know how to play, and when you have them, and seriously (as hard as this can be) you take time to know and play with them; your sense of playful exuberance shines. This is why I am also blessed to be a freelance writer for children. They're happy, and then their parents are.
Having children in a marriage, partnership or marriage like relationship gives you an opportunity to stop and smell the roses. If an unhappy couple, you're less likely to fight around the kids in the playground, or anywhere else where there are an abundance of parents and kids around you. You have a advantageous time delay to kick un-constructive thoughts aside, and then focus on this beautiful love triangle that you have created with your partner, either consciously and/or unconsciously.
Having children as a married couple or otherwise gives you a reason to succeed. There are times you're pushed to your limits. This is why many people engage in fruitful work, and/or become risk takers to provide opportunities to start their own business. The latter group would start and grow a business in time to provide for their loved one, as well as for their child/children. Their motivational levels to serve and solve a problem is at an all time high.
On the other hand, children can also be painful. They might force their parents to get back together (this can also be a good thing, if their quibble is just that) without the need to orchestrate a divorce. This can put pressure on the married or separated couple at the time.
Yes children are expensive, yet they move you to success and joy in a love based relationship. Providing for them helps you to be resourceful.