In recent events, domestic violence has been an issue we have been drawn to on the news and our every day lives. Whether it is a neighbour, a friend or a relative; we do not know what goes on behind closed doors. Women who are faced with domestic violence are told to leave, but is it really that easy? It is usually too late, and the repercussions can be quite fatal.
Many of us may wonder why victims of domestic violence stay with their partners, but unfortunately for victims; it may be far worse leaving, so the only option is for them to stay. Awareness is the first step in trying to make a difference to those who suffer from this horrible ordeal. Knowing that it can be happening to anyone, many cases of domestic violence are being excused, overlooked or denied.
It can be impossible to be certain what happens behind closed doors, but there are signs that you may see. The victim may feel afraid and anxious on a regular basis. They may receive frequent harassing phone calls from their partner that are not necessary. You may see that they have frequent injuries that the victim may call accidents. They also may frequently miss social events, work and/or school with no explanation.
There are also many psychological issues that a victim may face, including low self-esteem issues. You may also start to notice major personality changes where they used to be an outgoing person, and now they are more reserved and quiet.
Be aware that if you only see one of these signs, don’t assume that they are being abused. However, there is no harm in raising the issue if you have good reason to. If you want to raise the issue with someone, ensure you go about it the right way. Ask if something is wrong and express your concern. However, do not pressure them into telling you. Be a listener and offer your help, but do not give advice. Do not judge and/or do not blame.
Victims may find it quite hard to talk to family and friends about what is happening, as they do not want people to judge their relationship. If you are someone that is going through such violence, there are anonymous people that you can reach out to. Counsellors are a great resource that should be used, as it is a great way to get help in a private setting. No one should ever live in fear; help is always available. Get it before it is too late.