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As in life, there is a first for everything. The same rings true when it comes to falling in (and at times out of) love with someone.
There is that first date. No doubt there would be a few butterflies swimming through your stomach. You do your utmost to make the right impression, and at times you might think whether or not you're good for this person. If you have been rejected on first dates in the past, you might hope that this new mate wants to be with you, even if you feel like a love at first sight game is happening or not.
That was your first time. You're climbing that hill. Life goes around in cycles. Remember when you started year 7 (first year of high school), and it felt like you were back in kindergarten? True to form. Guess what, your mate is also having a first with you. Your first date with them...their first date with you.
The same with that very first kiss. How did it feel? The first lunch? The first time in bed?
If all went smooth sailing, I salute you and your mate. On the other hand, if things did not go as planned, don't be so hard on yourself. It was your first time. First timers for everything takes up a lot of your time, energy and concentration. You're here because you love life, and you're not giving up on love - irrespective as to whether or not you're in a relationship/in love with someone.
You're climbing that hill when doing something new for the first time. It's steep. Guess what, you reach that peak and everything is down hill from there.
Same with the first Valentine's Day with my man recently. Did not know what to expect, yet we survived it and celebrated it in advance. I even have a card from him on my desk celebrating that milestone with him.
When you survive the firsts - the seconds, thirds and subsequents are easy in comparison. No different to when you drove a car for the first time. No different to anything that matters, and that includes love.