Love like this is worth the work!
How many times have I wished I could go back in time and undo the last thing I said?
It's terrible when you begin a conversation with the one you love and things start to get a bit heated, an argument ensues and all of a sudden you find yourself bringing up things that are long past and saying things you simply don't mean.
How I wish there was an undo button and a stop and rewind sometimes. The absolute worst is when a small thing escalates and escalates until you can't imagine how on earth things got so bad from something so tiny!
I'm one of those people who would rather get it all out there and talk about it, but sometimes the one you love is not one of those people and that's hard too. Choosing the words to say can be all so difficult and framing them carefully is imperative, 'cause let's face it sometimes we're not all on the same page at the same time!
Communication is the most important thing in a relationship for there's nothing worse than things unsaid that start to fester.
So I try to take a step back... Both metaphorically and literally. And by doing so I hope to get a better picture, before I say anything stupid or hurtful that I don't want to say.
I do want to be heard but I don't want to be hurt and I certainly don't want to hurt him in return.
So I wait the ten seconds and I hope my brain has kicked into gear by then and got control of my tongue and my emotions, which sometimes get the better of me.
Sometimes this works... sometimes.
I hope to get better at it as time goes on, because my relationship is worth it!
I'm sure yours is too! :)
Love to you all, Ashlee North