I am always being asked by men how they can pick up. Well there are some definite dos and don’ts in this department. I will confess I am not an expert in picking up and I understand it can be a scary, nerve wrecking and sometimes a soul crushing experience. But if you take a deep breath, calm down and tell yourself the worst thing that could happen is that they say no, you will be fine.
The most successful pick-up line I have ever had went like this:
I was the last person to get on a bus and I sat next to a cute, slightly goofy looking guy who seemed to be reading a university text book. I plugged my earphones in and minded my own business. Not too long later I saw him drawing on the corner of one of the pages, a picture of Cosmo from the nicolodeon show ‘Fairley Odd Parents’, puzzled, I continued minding my own business. Not much time had passed by when he turned to me and asked me “Do you think I should give up studying and become and artist? Or keep studying?” I told him to keep studying.
I ended up dating this guy for 5 months.
This is evidence that pick-up lines can work! You just need some creativity and confidence.
One of the worst pick-up lines I ever received was this incredibly unoriginal one.
I was at a music festival and a guy comes up to me and says, ‘I fell in love once. It was about 20 seconds ago, it was with you.’
There are a few problems here, the obvious being how unintelligent and forward it is. But one key problem with pick-up lines like this is, even if I chose to see the joke, what am I supposed to say?
The very purpose of pick-up lines is to get a person to participate in a conversation with you.
Another classic don’t is to get your friend to do the work for you, there is only so much a wing man can do. When a guy comes over to a girl and says ‘Hey my friend really thinks you’re cute’ the first thing she is going to ask is ‘well then why didn’t he come over and tell me that?’ This reeks desperation and also makes you look like failure on a few levels. If you are worried about being turned down at least have the guts to be turned down to your face.
The most important thing to remember is to get up brush yourself off and try again. The painful blow to your confidence will hurt but don’t let it hurt for too long. Just think of all the poor souls who have had the same thing happen to them every time they have tried. It takes guts to talk to somebody new, we have known this since primary school, as long as you don’t insult the person, there is nothing to feel shame about.