I like reading quotes about all sorts of topics. This article is about a few favourite quotes on the topic of being loved or loving another in the romantic sense. After I had chosen them I realised all are about being loved and accepted for who you are. This is important to me.
Ann Landers says, 'Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses.'
I believe a romantic relationship that is going to last needs to be based on friendship. However, it needs that extra something, chemistry, intensity, which moves it beyond the realm of 'just friends'. On top of that intensity and excitement there needs to be understanding, both in terms of comprehending what each other means and having an agreement of what is acceptable within the relationship. The agreement may not have been spelt out but each partner knows to do certain things and not do others.
I interpret confidence as meaning both trust each other and also keep some information between themselves. They will share and forgive each other and there will be give and take. Whether life is going well or not the two will stick together.
I like the part about not looking for that impossible standard, 'perfection'. Loving someone means realising and accepting they will mess up sometimes, whether that be forgetting something, saying the wrong thing or making mistakes.
The poet, John Keats said, 'I love you the more in that I believe you had liked me for my own sake and for nothing else.' It is wonderful to feel you are valued not for any money, possessions, talents or status you have but just for being yourself.
"Vulnerability is the essence of romance. It's the art of being uncalculated, the willingness to look foolish, the courage to say, 'This is me, and I am interested in you enough to show you my flaws with the hope that you may embrace me for all that I am but, more important, all that I am not,' " says American actor and producer, Ashton Kutcher.
This is another great quote. How wonderful it is to feel free to reveal your true self to another person without fear of judgement. True love allows you to be open about your shortcomings and have another accept you as you are.
Often people feel they have to pretend to be something they are not or cover up certain aspects of their personality. If someone truly loves you there should be no need for that. Your shortcomings will not matter to them. As Mark Darcy tells Bridget in Bridget Jones's Diary, 'I like you very much, just as you are.'