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Make that Coffee - Quick

by Erica (follow)
First Date (12)      Conflict (11)     

Couple at a bar

When you’re internet dating, and someone responds to your message, wink or kiss, it’s a good idea to meet face to face sooner rather than later. And here’s why…

Once I found someone on a dating site with a great profile, I messaged him, he liked my profile, and we arranged to meet up. Alas, for a variety of reasons, neither of us was free for a few days.

In that time we swapped email after email. He was a writer by trade and his emails were warm and funny. He would respond quickly and I was always thrilled to see a message from him waiting in my yahoo account (back when everyone had a yahoo account).

When eventually we fixed a time for coffee, I was so excited, certain that with our constant emails, we had created a great springboard from which to get to know each other better.

Unfortunately it was one of my worst dates. On meeting him, all the charm, warmth and humour vanished as if I had turned up with a cup of methadone to swill down with my coffee. I was open to the fact that we might not find each other attractive, and as I was a student at the time, I was also conscious of the fact that any dates we did have would probably consist of working our way through the $2 meal deals at McDonalds. I did think however that at the very least, we would have a couple of laughs, handle any scenario gracefully and maybe walk away friends if nothing else.

Maybe I reminded him of his psychotic ex-girlfriend? Or his mum? Whatever the reason, the point was that my date was completely different in person compared to over the internet regardless of the rapport we had built.

From then on I organised coffee dates quickly and avoided on-going emails or phone calls. The most perfect potential date in the world can become Mr Excruciating Half Hour very quickly... and its better to find that out sooner rather than later.

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