No matter how old you are or how long you have been together, cheating is a devastating experience that can leave long lasting scars. Trust can be an issue after this experience and lead to many insecurities for future relationships.
It is hard to understand why people cheat, however the results that I have discovered are very interesting. Whether it is due to certain urges, needs, unhappiness, or selfishness, it is an act that should be condemned. So can people change their ways?
Problems in a relationship is one of the most common reasons why cheating occurs. One may stop cheating if there is happiness in the relationship again, but who is to say they won't do it again if unhappiness arises once more? People can change but whether they want to is a different story. Unfortunately for some, cheating is the easiest option to avoid confronting any situation within their own relationship. If one is willing to give their relationship a fair go, the best way to deal with an unhappy relationship is to seek therapy sessions. Working through uncertainties and any issues may save a relationship and stop the cheating. Cheating does not solve any of these problems and if a cheater is keen to fix their problems, then there is a chance they will stop this selfish act.
Cheating can also be from immaturity and, over time one will grow up and hopefully grow out of it. Young love is a different experience compared to a relationship five years later. One will understand the dynamics of being involved with another and learn to understand that cheating is not the answer. The urge and interest of cheating may leave ones thoughts and slowly evaporate when they become more mature.
Conversely, you have those cheaters that do it because they can. They may have been caught, but their partner keeps forgiving them. A cheater in this scenario will believe that they can continue to do what they like as they know their partner will keep forgiving them.
Every relationship is different, however, it does not excuse anyone's actions. Unfortunately, some get away with it and some get caught. Regardless, there is never a good reason to cheat. If one feels the urge, the relationship should be over before one moves on to another. Once a cheater may always be a cheater but it is possible for a cheater to change their ways and be clean from this unforgivable act forever if they really want to.