One of the most common mistakes we make when searching for the perfect person is that we focus on the wrong traits. There are many categories that we focus on that are irrelevant including job, background, education and looks.
Many of these traits do not equate to happiness and to find one person to have everything you want can be quite difficult. If standards are too high, many of us will be searching for years and you may realise after years of searching you cannot find them.
Picky Problem #1: Looks It is nice to have an attraction to someone but having on your checklist someone that looks like a model is sometimes too far fetched. We must always remember looks fade and do not last forever.
Picky Problem #2: Job A good job and lots of money can make life easier, but this does not make you happy. Instead, money can be the root of all evil. Due to your partner's work commitments, he/she may consume most of their time at work and in result may spend any time with you. This type of relationship can make you feel like you are still single.
Picky Problem #3: Background We live in a multicultural country where discrimination should be diminished and being picky is unnecessary. We are all human and we are all the same. You may be surprised that the person you least expect will treat you with a great deal of respect and love.
Despite all these picky problems, you do not want to settle for anyone. We should all have standards but picking the right ones are important. Do not go for the superficial things, as they will always fade. Be realistic.
You know you are too picky when your list of wants and needs in a partner are excessive and you focus on the little things rather than the big picture. Look beyond and focus on what really matters in the relationship including happiness and trust. These are the foundations of a good relationship, as you will be spending a lot of time with each other.