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Growing up I knew of boyfriend/girlfriend, engaged/ fiancé and married. I'm sure there have been other titles for a while, but these days there are so many more titles that have been invented when it comes to love based relationships.
A few you would be familiar with is - one night stand: someone you had sex with once. Casual sex partner: someone you have sex with occasionally or a lot, but not in a relationship. It's complicated: when you're in a relationship that's hard to explain to others.
What about The Missus: that's usually what men call their girlfriend after they have been dating a long time but aren't married. I guess after 20 years of dating someone, it would be odd to call them your girlfriend.
Here's one more. I bet you haven't heard of this one. We are in a relationship, but we don't have the title. This is apparently when a girl is dating a guy, but he doesn't want a girlfriend. They have sex and they do couple like things like movies and dinners. Ok so this probably falls into the it's complicated category, but I felt it was something I wanted to talk more about.
I find it bizarre that anyone would agree to this. I knew a girl who had this sort of relationship. I just couldn't understand it. If you like having sex with me, and you like to do other stuff with me, then why can't you call me your girlfriend? That's what I would be asking.
I'm sorry if this sounds rude to any readers, but I've never been so desperate that I would say that I am in a relationship without the title. I value myself, and I would be much happier being alone than being with someone who won't commit. Why can't there be a title? Is it because a man wants to be able to pick up girls whenever he wants, and not be in trouble for cheating? Is it because he likes spending time with a girl and enjoys her company for dinner and a movie; but wants to see her when it suits him? Because he doesn't want to have to have that I never get to see you conversation? This I will probably never find out.
If you are wondering what happened to the girl in the no title relationship...well she asked him if he would commit, and he said no. So it ended. Was she hurt? Probably. But if you are well aware of your situation from the word go, then you are the only person who is fully accountable for your hurt when it doesn't go the way you want it to.