Many of us may believe that being in a relationship will complete us. It might make you feel happy and a part of something, but it is important you enter into a relationship for the right reasons. Below are signs that indicate you are not ready for a relationship. Be mindful you do not fall into the traps and find yourself in a relationship at the wrong stage of your life.
Loving Yourself First How can you love another if you do not love yourself first? You can only love another as much as yourself, so do not fall into the trap that loving another will solve your personal issues.
Not Over Your EX Still infatuated with your ex? Cannot get over them? Then do not enter a new relationship until you are. If you are not over your ex, your next relationship could suffer immensely as your expectations will be high and you may be disappointed. Do not make the mistake; it will only end up in heart ache.
Too Busy Having a partner is about giving them your time, putting them before other things that used to take precedence. If you find that you work longs hours or that you are at an important stage of your schooling, do not jeapordise it by bringing another person into your life.
Trust Issues Have you been burnt before? Are you still dwelling over it? It can be very difficult to love and trust again due to your past. A relationship should be about trust and if you cannot trust your partner due to your past experiences, then you are not ready for a relationship.
You’re Desperate Don’t jump into a relationship with the first person you meet. Many think that being in a relationship will complete you. Unfortunately a relationship will not complete you, you can only complete yourself.
The Rebound This is a very vulnerable stage of your life. You have just come out of a relationship and it can be very hard to adjust to single life. This is a great time to enjoy singledom, do not rush into another relationship. Take time for yourself and remember who you are as a single person not a person that was in a relationship.
These are all the wrong reasons for entering a new relationship. Take your time to complete yourself rather than searching for someone to complete you. When you find yourself getting close to another, ask yourself why. If you truly have feelings for the person, then act upon them. If you feel that your reasons do not add up, you are not ready to give yourself to another.
Hey Simone, I liked reading through your article. One addition I would like to make to your list which is in my opinion a really common one and that is getting into a relationship because you are feeling lonely. The failure of such a relationship can almost always be predicted very easily.