Have you ever been afraid of someone for no apparent logical reason? How about that feeling that someone is just plain creepy and that you need to be rid of them?
Have just seen a couple of docos about the experiences of women who were stalked.
The most shocking thing to me was the length of time the obsession lasted for - 10 years in one particular doco.
It appeared these guys would hard out stalk, then get tired and have a bit of a rest only to surge again once the victim started to feel that things might be all right again.
Socially Romantically Inept Some of these guys are unable to form romantic relations in an accepted way or else they become nasty when the relationship is finished by the other person.
Control Issues The stalker plays a prolonged cat and mouse game with an unwilling player. The stalker will go as far as they dare before backing off for a while, providing false relief and planning their next move.
Cowardice These guys know they are doing wrong because they do things secretly.
Extremely Selfish All of these shenanigans happen because of something (someone) they want. Police warnings are to no avail. The stalker acts as though rules don't apply to them.
Psychological Game The victim is under constant threat. It is a type of dangerous bullying.
Things You can do to Combat Stalking
Approach Police and let them know what's going on.
Document all forms of communication by the stalker. Photographs for letters and gifts, recorded phone calls and texts, screenshots of messages. A journal of some kind. Include dates and times.
Install security lights and cameras.
Have some kind of personal GPS on your vehicle and body.
Have someone with you as far as practicable.
Let people know your plans, where you are going and when you expect to be back.
Have a coded message you can send to someone who will help you. For example send a blank text so they will know you are in trouble and inform the police.
Inform your workplace.
Work out a Plan A, B and C with people you trust.
Move to another place or town if need be.
There may be other ideas you come up with. Make things as hard as you can for the stalker. A very dangerous and scary situation.