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That First Date Kiss

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About to have that first kiss. Image Courtesy of stockphotos/ FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Last year I planned to meet a guy for a date. We talked a lot before and he couldn't understand why I said no to kissing on the first date.

There are many reasons why I think it's ok to have the no kiss rule. First it might be awkward. Let's say a guy and a girl go on a date. She doesn't really like him, but he likes her. She thinks the polite thing to do is stick around a bit and give him a chance. At the end she just wants to leave and he goes in for the kiss, and she doesn't want to and pulls away.

Second thing to factor in is food. Yes food. What if you have just had dinner on your first date, and you have eaten some garlic and onion laden dish, and now you have bad breath. It could be a real date killer. Maybe your date is going in for the first kiss, and if he likes it he will ask you to join him for a nice walk along the river or similar and continue the date. Then your bad breath turns him off.

What about if there is no chemistry. The moment might not be right, and your date thinks he/she needs to impress so they just go for it anyway. It might make things uncomfortable.

Then there's the strategic play of not kissing someone because it will make them want a second date. Think about it, you're looking hot and they want to kiss you so bad, but you have this no kiss on the first date rule so they have to wait. All they can think about is how hot you looked and how bad they want to kiss you.

The final reason is attachment. For me, if I went on a date and really liked a guy and we kissed and then said our goodbyes; I would leave feeling really good. However if he only kissed me to be polite, I would be gutted. If I kissed a guy and let's say 15 minutes later he messages and says sorry, I don't think it's going to work out or you're not my type - I would be pretty upset.

To kiss or not to kiss (on the first date). It's up to you.

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