Ah yes the ex. Please refer to image source at the end of this article.
I think we’ve all been in the situation of wanting to get back with the ex. It’s safe to say that nine times out of ten this is a bad idea, but there is always that little piece of hope that we’re the exception to the rule.
Love isn’t logical or convenient. Especially when considering going back to an ex, you have to weigh up the pros and cons such as what were the reasons for the split in the first place?
Infidelity, arguments, jealously, emotional abuse, lack of passion or just growing apart? The other question you have to ask yourself is have they changed? Or have you changed? Because if nothing has changed, it will just be history repeating, and will be a waste of time and emotion.
Personally I have found that people don’t change unless they want to. We’re stubborn like that. People say follow your heart and ignore your head, however I think you should ignore both. Follow your gut instinct. Our hearts in a way are masochists.
They say never judge a book by its cover, but I have found throughout my life that first impressions are correct. As humans we have a basic primal instinct to protect ourselves and the ones we love, but when it comes to matters of the heart, why do we ignore our gut feeling?
I believe the reason is hope. Hope for the happily ever after, and hope for the happy ending. Therefore we just ignore the signs of danger in the hopes of finding the one.
So what should you do? Dive in head first. When you’re cautious you miss out, and you might just out on something great. And you never know you may just be the exception.