Image Courtesy of Tina Phillips / FreeDigitalPhotos.net From cold to hot, turn that frog into a prince.
Like that saying goes "don't look for Mr or Mrs Right, create them." True love takes time. Before you can even say those three magic words with eight letters and one meaning, you need to ensure that you've found your prince. Your true mate is so.
We cannot change each other. We can only change ourselves and our own perspectives around anything, and this includes love. If your partner is a sloppy kisser, and you want clean kissers in your life; you won't be able to change this directly, however, you can change your thoughts and focus on what is wonderful about the relationship.
Apart from the sloppiness, are the kisses still exceptional?
Does your mate care for you when you're not well?
Will they give up 10-minutes of their super busy schedule to have coffee with you - just because they're so keen to see you?
Focus on those qualities that bring that prince factor into play. Unless you've hit the love jackpot by falling in love with and marrying your childhood sweetheart, you need to kiss a few frogs before kissing a prince.
In Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) we delete, distort and generalise information. That kiss is a filter that is compared to other kisses from people that would have been frogs. It is like asking someone if they would prefer to own four negatively geared investment properties with no equity in each property, or to simply own one positive cash flow investment property with an abundance of equity?
Same principle. Those clean kissers are now frogs, because you're working on your current mate to become a prince now that those old exes are (hopefully) out of your life.
Focus on what is great with your current mate to turn out of frog territory, and what is not so great will wither away. If the latter does not wither away, it won't feel so trivial. You won't be so upset with the frog like traits.
This is a pivotal life skill. Relationships never fail, people just give up. One day at a time, and one date at a time. Do not criticise. Look at the speck of your own eyebrow before doing so.
Focus on the attractive sides, and balance out the bed time with decent, intelligent conversations to find common ground away from frog territory to your prince. Good luck.