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What Attracts Men To Online Dating

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To say online dating is becoming increasingly popular is stating the obvious. You just have to look at the number of online dating sites to see this. Ask someone how they met their new partner and it is quite possible the answer will be online. I asked a few men on an online dating site what attracted them to this mode of meeting women and received a variety of responses.

Shyness
A few men said they were quite shy. They found it easier to communicate online for a while and then arrange to meet anyone they seemed to 'click' with. Some chose to graduate from communicating online to texting and talking on the phone. Then they made the leap into meeting face to face.

A common response was that it was less intimidating to chat online first rather than try to get talking to someone at a pub, party or other function. Women on dating sites are looking for a date so it is easier to ask someone to meet up for coffee or a drink.

Common Interests and Similar Values
Some men said they liked online dating because it was easier to find someone with interests similar to their own. It was possible to rule out women with very different values if these showed up in their profiles. If it was only after chatting online that these deal breakers showed up it was still simple to discontinue contact and look for someone with similar values to their own.

These men were talking about their experience of using one of the general free dating sites. They felt it was much more likely to find a woman with similar interests there than walking up to someone in a bar or meeting someone at a friend's party. There are dating sites for people who only want to meet a fellow Christian or someone in their own age bracket.

I had heard there are some very specialised sites so did a quick online search. I didn't check what country each of the sites originated in. The sites included ones for cat lovers, people with allergies, snake lovers (shudder), farmers, men with moustaches, people with red hair, book lovers and star trek fans. There are more.

Ease of Communication
A number of men said it could be difficult to strike up a conversation in a pub because of the noise. A couple of them said they preferred to be sober when making contact with someone new. They also felt they made better decisions if they hadn't been drinking.

Some would prefer to look through profiles and then initiate contact with women who seemed to 'tick the boxes' rather than have a mate at a party or the pub push them into striking up a conversation with a 'random' woman. Those who were more private didn't want others watching their attempts at meeting someone.

Cheaper
There were those who preferred not having to fork out money for cabs to and from a hotel or other venue and not needing money for drinks and perhaps the pokies. As one guy pointed out, a man often needed to go out a number of nights before he met someone with girlfriend potential. This could add up to quite a bit of money.

One man said he liked being able to get an early night and that wasn't going to happen if he went out. He added that he liked that he didn't have to make an effort to get dressed up after work to go out and try to meet someone.

Easy Sex
A couple of guys I asked said they were attracted to online dating because it was an easy way to get sex. On the other hand there were one or two who said they didn't like the fact some women they had chatted to just seemed to be interested in sex.

Online dating suits some people and is becoming more common. However, some people say they would never try it and prefer to wait until they meet someone in a face to face situation.


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