I have found over this past festive season that these annual, exciting events have been more of a hindrance to my dating life than an added benefit.
I was dating a man at an awkward distance from Christmas, it was clear we would not be together over such an important family focused event, therefore we had to call it off before it was too close for comfort and an uncomfortable time to break up with somebody. So Christmas already railroaded a potential romance.
The next big Calendar event was New Years, now this was during a time where I was content flying solo, a break from dating was in order for me. But thatís socially unacceptable for midnight on New Years Iím afraid. So off I went into the night with some girlfriends who were most definitely on the prowl for that midnight kiss. I however was more than satisfied listening to the live music and avoiding eye contact with any male, this only drew them in (a good tactic to save for a later date!) and I had my pick of a few interested parties. I did have a lot of satisfaction in choosing to go home alone, avoiding the walk of shame. But New Yearís interrupted an important time of independence.
And here it is coming up, the big one, the mother of all romantic days, Valentineís Day. Itís a day Iíve never really paid a great deal of attention to. But Iíve just started dating a man and not wanting to abruptly end this relationship in itís early stages the same way that Christmas did, Iíve been going out of my way to drop hints that Valentineís Day is ďso ridiculousĒ and mentioning my plans to go and see a band that night anyway.
Dating is already a stressful enough experience, waiting the right amount of time to reply to a text message or call, wearing the right clothes, saying the clever or funny things, wanting to show the best version of yourself at all times. These seasonal events do not help the situation at all, they make it a real minefield that you have to tiptoe through very carefully otherwise youíre saying goodbye to yet another budding relationship.