Years ago now when my two children were two and four years of age my relationship with my partner had become more like ships passing in the night. I think anyone that has been a parent or has just become a parent can relate to this and even people that aren't parents but have been in a long term relationship that has become stale, repetitious and boring.
Parenting is a thankless task, challenging in so many ways:-
Lack of sleep
Lack of time to yourself to develop your own interests
Losing touch with world affairs and single friends
Losing confidence and interest in how you look
Loss of income making couples edgy about spending, often questioning each other's expenses and leading to arguments.
A major issue for most couples is the waning sexual desire usually due to plain tiredness if a parent or from working hard trying to get ahead in a career.
Boredom can set in from the pure repetition of your lifestyle whether it is from parenting and watching Sponge Bob Squarepants for the 50th time or from a constant repetitive daily routine.
I was there myself once. One of my children was very hyper-active along with concentration difficulties. He was enrolled at a wonderful Kindergarten Dalwood Spilstead Service for challenging children and families in need that also offered free counselling to couples.
After a few sessions our Counsellor suggested we each make a promise to organise three special surprises for our partner to help rekindle the relationship. We must do it within six weeks.
Sexy Dress up. I greeted my partner at the door with a drink wearing a silky French maid's outfit, stockings and heels. I sat him down and I waved a purple feather duster around doing a wet finger along the table top dust test and jokingly reprimanded him for being so tardy with his cleaning efforts. Of course we laughed and he blamed me for the dust. This loosened the mood and also my outfit. You could also try dressing Burlesque to get in character. It makes you feel quite sexy.
Date night - organised a sitter, went out to dinner and saw a Burlesque Cabaret Show We promised not to discuss the children.
I booked a game of Par 3 golf for us both. 18 hole course with Par 3 on every hole so it's only a short game. Also it's open until 10.00pm in the evenings.