Love at First Sight

Love at First Sight

Posted 2014-01-12 by kellyfollow

It is what Disney, RomComs and paperback romances are built on – the ubiquitous love at first sight. Boy meets girl, girl is beautiful, boy is charming and they are inseparable forever after. But just as persistent as the fantasy is the question that comes along with it: does it exist outside the pages of a romance novel or the lyrics of a catchy musical number?

I think the answer is yes, but I also think that’s the wrong question.

It’s easy to fall in love at first sight, because there’s no clashing priorities, no silly disagreements, no disgusting habits that you just can’t learn to love, as hard as you try.

You don’t know if they always come to bed with feet like ice, or never replace the toilet paper roll. There’s none of that ugly stuff. There’s just you and them, a stranger across the street who is beautiful and simple and carries none of the baggage that comes with familiarity. It’s easy because you fall in love with what you hope that person is.

So yes, love at first sight exists, and it’s thrilling and wonderful.

But the question is; will it last? Is whatever you saw in them in that very first moment worth the compromise and hard work and potential heartache involved in keeping them? For that matter, is whatever you saw in them really there?

Because he might be the most beautiful thing you’ve ever seen, and her smile might light up the whole room, but he probably picks his nose and she probably chews with her mouth open.

When you get to know them, people are full of bad habits. What is immediately apparent on the surface is so rarely what you get, or at least all you get, when you dig a little deeper.

That’s not to say you shouldn’t take the chance, just be careful not to get swept up in the fantasy and ignore the real person behind it because that’s not fair - to either of you.

You can fall in love at first sight easily enough. Staying in love is another matter.


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